Some people can be really tough to shop for. Autism moms tend to be those “some people”. They hardly ever take time for themselves, so when you ask what they want you’ll likely get a blank stare and a long “ummmmm…”. Because all she’s thinking about is the holiday chaos that’s coming and trying to figure out gifts for her kids. Thankfully, I’ve put together a handy list of the best gifts for the autism mom.
Best Gifts for the Autism Mom
One of the best possible gifts for an autism mom is babysitting. And not only offering to babysit her neurotypical kids. See, the thing is, we love our autistic children more than life in itself. But sometimes life gets exhausting. This is true of all moms. We all need a break from our kids. The main difference is that it’s often pretty simple to get a break from typical kids. Grandmas, Grandpas, Aunties, Uncles, and even friends are typically willing to take your kid for an hour or two.
We all need a break from our kids. The main difference is that it’s often pretty simple to get a break from typical kids. Grandmas, Grandpas, Aunties, Uncles, and even friends are typically willing to take your kid for an hour or two. When your kid is autistic, however, it becomes a lot more difficult to find willing help.
Offer to babysit for the autism mom in your life, and when she says no, reassure her that you can babysit her autistic child. We just moved and my sister told me she could watch the kids. I was apprehensive and she explained how she knew what snacks A-Man loved and she knew his favorite shows, so she would be perfectly fine keeping him (and the other kids) a few hours.
I know that my family might turn down 8/10 invitations. I know that it can seem easier to just stop inviting us, but please don’t. It’s true, big crazy holiday events can be really scary and overwhelming for autistic kids. I might say no, or maybe I’ll come for just an hour of your day-long event. Please keep inviting.
Beyond inviting the family to your holiday fun, please invite the autism mom in your life out alone. Take her for drinks. Meet at the Starbucks to drink coffee and enjoy the (relative) quiet. If you can totally splurge plan a spa day so she can really relax. It’s so rare for autism moms to get time out alone (see gift idea #1 to understand why!) so an invitation to girls’ night can make a world of difference for her spirit.
Food and Drink.
Okay, this might seem like a cop-out answer, but words on a blog post cannot express how wonderful it is to get food. I can’t tell you how often I forget to eat. I’m a busy mom. I have four kids. Three of them are homeschooling, two of them have special needs, and one is a baby. Plus I have three work at home jobs. Often my husband comes home from work at 5pm and reminds me to eat something. Plus I practically live on Starbucks.
If you surprise the autism mom in your life with any food or drink, she’ll be forever grateful. Whether it’s cookies, wine, a dinner, coffee, or really anything. My favorites are, of course, Starbucks, any sweet treat, and wine. Always wine.
With any of these gifts, the autism mom in your life will be the happiest person on your Christmas list!
For more gift ideas, check out:
Nutcracker Themed Gift Ideas for Kids | Every Star is Different
Gift Giving & Autism: The One Golden Rule | My Home Truths
Self-Care Gifts for Special Needs Parents| Life Over C’s
Best Gifts for the Autism Mom | This Outnumbered Mama
115+ Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Kids with Hyperlexia | And Next Comes L